fix data race in join auto spill

[windtalker]

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #8144

Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

Fix data race in join auto spill.
The root cause is join spill will call spilled_partition_indexes.push_back(i); concurrently in auto spill mode.
This pr fix it by

• Rename spilled_partition_indexes to remaining_partition_indexes_to_restore, and only use this during restore stage
• Init remaining_partition_indexes_to_restore in workAfterBuildFinish, which is thread safe.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

None

[SeaRise]

Others LGTM

[windtalker]

/run-all-tests

[yibin87]

LGTM

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Timeline:

• 2023-09-26 07:31:35.744039609 +0000 UTC m=+346485.462381811: ☑️ agreed by SeaRise.
• 2023-09-26 07:57:15.409608992 +0000 UTC m=+348025.127951191: ☑️ agreed by yibin87.

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created to branch release-7.4: #8152.