fix(poetry): skip if not installed with official script

[AThePeanut4]

What does this PR do

This skips the poetry self update step if poetry is not installed using the official installer script, preventing externally-managed-environment errors if it was installed through e.g. a package manager.

I've also added a config option (python.poetry_force_self_update) that bypasses the check to always run poetry self update - this is useful for manual installations.

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Fixes #979