[Darwin tests] Fix testAnySharedRemoteController and testReadClusterStateCacheFailure

[vivien-apple]

Issue Being Resolved

• In [Infineon] Update CSP to reduce the openthread stack suspending time #22754 there are some intermittent darwin tests failures related to testReadClusterStateCacheFailure
• In change for on off transitiontime feature #21569 (and many others...) there are some intermittent darwin tests failures related to testAnySharedRemoteController

Change overview

• Fix testReadClusterStateCacheFailure to wait for the first XPC disconnect before issuing a read...
• Fix MTRDeviceControllerOverXPC and MTRDeviceOverXPC in such a way that the proxy handle is not released while setting it up. It just seems that we don't really want to allocate an xpc connection for nothing. As a side effect it was allocated twice with a disconnect in between - which is why tests relying on a single disconnect were failing.

[github-actions]

PR #22838: Size comparison from edb93a0 to a313797

Increases (1 build for qpg)

platform	target	config	section	edb93a0	a313797	change	% change
qpg	lighting-app	qpg6105+debug	(read/write)	1146288	1146296	8	0.0
			.text	593384	593392	8	0.0

Decreases (1 build for bl702)

platform	target	config	section	edb93a0	a313797	change	% change
bl702	lighting-app	bl702	(read/write)	1188091	1188075	-16	-0.0
			.debug_info	37898613	37898612	-1	-0.0
			.text	956754	956752	-2	-0.0

Full report (14 builds for bl702, k32w, linux, mbed, nrfconnect, qpg, telink)

platform	target	config	section	edb93a0	a313797	change	% change
bl702	lighting-app	bl702		0	0	0	0.0
			(read only)	3262	3262	0	0.0
			(read/write)	1188091	1188075	-16	-0.0
			.bleromro	6296	6296	0	0.0
			.bleromrw	124	124	0	0.0
			.boot2	688	688	0	0.0
			.bss	67078	67078	0	0.0
			.bss_psram	29696	29696	0	0.0
			.comment	48	48	0	0.0
			.data	4272	4272	0	0.0
			.debug_abbrev	1506921	1506921	0	0.0
			.debug_aranges	133088	133088	0	0.0
			.debug_frame	486408	486408	0	0.0
			.debug_info	37898613	37898612	-1	-0.0
			.debug_line	5252753	5252753	0	0.0
			.debug_loc	3364043	3364043	0	0.0
			.debug_ranges	359032	359032	0	0.0
			.debug_str	3456012	3456012	0	0.0
			.hbn	509	509	0	0.0
			.hbn_noinit	260	260	0	0.0
			.init	342	342	0	0.0
			.init_array	144	144	0	0.0
			.psram	0	0	0	0.0
			.riscv.attributes	47	47	0	0.0
			.rodata	116472	116472	0	0.0
			.rsvd	3188	3188	0	0.0
			.shstrtab	293	293	0	0.0
			.stack	2048	2048	0	0.0
			.strtab	564828	564828	0	0.0
			.symtab	171600	171600	0	0.0
			.tcm_data	36	36	0	0.0
			.tcmcode	3262	3262	0	0.0
			.text	956754	956752	-2	-0.0
		bl702+rpc		0	0	0	0.0
			(read only)	3262	3262	0	0.0
			(read/write)	1284011	1284011	0	0.0
			.bleromro	6296	6296	0	0.0
			.bleromrw	124	124	0	0.0
			.boot2	688	688	0	0.0
			.bss	75126	75126	0	0.0
			.bss_psram	29936	29936	0	0.0
			.comment	48	48	0	0.0
			.data	4800	4800	0	0.0
			.debug_abbrev	1644466	1644466	0	0.0
			.debug_aranges	140592	140592	0	0.0
			.debug_frame	511784	511784	0	0.0
			.debug_info	41805210	41805210	0	0.0
			.debug_line	5627292	5627292	0	0.0
			.debug_loc	3556747	3556747	0	0.0
			.debug_ranges	381488	381488	0	0.0
			.debug_str	3851912	3851912	0	0.0
			.hbn	509	509	0	0.0
			.hbn_noinit	260	260	0	0.0
			.init	342	342	0	0.0
			.init_array	160	160	0	0.0
			.psram	0	0	0	0.0
			.riscv.attributes	47	47	0	0.0
			.rodata	129864	129864	0	0.0
			.rsvd	3188	3188	0	0.0
			.shstrtab	293	293	0	0.0
			.stack	2048	2048	0	0.0
			.strtab	624001	624001	0	0.0
			.symtab	189408	189408	0	0.0
			.tcm_data	36	36	0	0.0
			.tcmcode	3262	3262	0	0.0
			.text	1030456	1030456	0	0.0
k32w	light	k32w0+release	(read/write)	649908	649908	0	0.0
			.bss	70712	70712	0	0.0
			.data	2068	2068	0	0.0
			.text	574400	574400	0	0.0
	lock	k32w0+release	(read/write)	706864	706864	0	0.0
			.bss	71160	71160	0	0.0
			.data	2076	2076	0	0.0
			.text	630900	630900	0	0.0
linux	chip-tool-ipv6only	arm64	(read only)	10381740	10381740	0	0.0
			(read/write)	706257	706257	0	0.0
			.bss	33953	33953	0	0.0
			.data	2864	2864	0	0.0
			.data.rel.ro	650560	650560	0	0.0
			.dynamic	560	560	0	0.0
			.got	13904	13904	0	0.0
			.init	24	24	0	0.0
			.init_array	208	208	0	0.0
			.rodata	508332	508332	0	0.0
			.text	8219428	8219428	0	0.0
	thermostat-no-ble	arm64	(read only)	2387508	2387508	0	0.0
			(read/write)	143649	143649	0	0.0
			.bss	55361	55361	0	0.0
			.data	1912	1912	0	0.0
			.data.rel.ro	77208	77208	0	0.0
			.dynamic	560	560	0	0.0
			.got	5184	5184	0	0.0
			.init	24	24	0	0.0
			.init_array	440	440	0	0.0
			.rodata	143676	143676	0	0.0
			.text	2001536	2001536	0	0.0
mbed	lock-app	CY8CPROTO_062_4343W+release	(read only)	6224	6224	0	0.0
			(read/write)	2455680	2455680	0	0.0
			.bss	215044	215044	0	0.0
			.data	5872	5872	0	0.0
			.text	1418324	1418324	0	0.0
nrfconnect	all-clusters-app	nrf52840dk_nrf52840	(read/write)	1182875	1182875	0	0.0
			bss	144433	144433	0	0.0
			rodata	144236	144236	0	0.0
			text	815296	815296	0	0.0
	all-clusters-minimal-app	nrf52840dk_nrf52840	(read/write)	1161559	1161559	0	0.0
			bss	143660	143660	0	0.0
			rodata	135808	135808	0	0.0
			text	803188	803188	0	0.0
qpg	lighting-app	qpg6105+debug	(read/write)	1146288	1146296	8	0.0
			.bss	110544	110544	0	0.0
			.data	1028	1028	0	0.0
			.text	593384	593392	8	0.0
	lock-app	qpg6105+debug	(read/write)	1116180	1116180	0	0.0
			.bss	106376	106376	0	0.0
			.data	1032	1032	0	0.0
			.text	563280	563280	0	0.0
telink	light-switch-app	tlsr9518adk80d	(read/write)	814512	814512	0	0.0
			bss	72172	72172	0	0.0
			noinit	43488	43488	0	0.0
			text	574560	574560	0	0.0
	lighting-app	tlsr9518adk80d	(read/write)	836616	836616	0	0.0
			bss	73028	73028	0	0.0
			noinit	43488	43488	0	0.0
			text	592778	592778	0	0.0
	ota-requestor-app	tlsr9518adk80d	(read/write)	844576	844576	0	0.0
			bss	73936	73936	0	0.0
			noinit	43488	43488	0	0.0
			text	598962	598962	0	0.0

[andy31415]

fast tracking: this fixes CI and the darwin flake is very disruptive.