sink: fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors

[ben1009]

What problem does this PR solve?

• fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors #1724
• replace current retry usage with new pkg retry
• for some test cases, set backoffMaxDelayInMs=60*1000 same as previous/backoff retry pkg

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

Code changes

• replace current retry usage with new pkg

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch

Release note

• No release note

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests
/run-kafka-tests

[ben1009]

/run-leak-tests

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests
/run-kafka-tests

[codecov-commenter]

Codecov Report

Merging #1928 (bf0f879) into master (0138edc) will increase coverage by 17.1327%.
The diff coverage is 67.4637%.

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+ Hits           4307      11419       +7112     
- Misses         6662       8252       +1590     
- Partials        425       1116        +691     

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[amyangfei]

/merge

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This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: b070ea2

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests
/run-kafka-tests

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #2315.

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #2316.

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #2317.