Fix AsyncTasks cancel deadlock (#8953)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #8953 and #8928

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #8952 , close #8926

Problem Summary:
See the details in #8952 (comment)

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

None

[JaySon-Huang]

/run-all-tests

[CalvinNeo]

lgtm

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Timeline:

• 2024-04-22 06:53:41.65914427 +0000 UTC m=+839440.770190730: ☑️ agreed by JaySon-Huang.
• 2024-04-22 12:22:54.08864367 +0000 UTC m=+3730.828546581: ☑️ agreed by CalvinNeo.

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