binlog: fix the wrong fatal error when binlog is too large (#46365)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #46365

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #28659

Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

Catch both send and receive large binlog error.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

1. Create a cluster with binlog
2. Commit a very large delete statement over 2G.

• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Timeline:

• 2023-08-24 06:21:25.570510736 +0000 UTC m=+1389650.119526723: ☑️ agreed by jackysp.
• 2023-10-08 00:45:23.20602202 +0000 UTC m=+926720.793132316: ☑️ agreed by lichunzhu.

[lichunzhu]

/retest

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