planner: support no_merge_join hint on optimizer (#45562)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #45562

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: ref #45520

Problem Summary: planner: support no_merge_join hint on optimizer

What is changed and how it works?

planner: support no_merge_join hint on optimizer

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/build	5a4f3c9	link	true	/test build
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