executor: set handle changed when col gets auto-updated (#44566)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #44566

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #44565

Problem Summary: We didn't set handleChanged properly when a on-update-now column gets updated automatically and it's also a pk column, which leads to #44565 .

What is changed and how it works?

Set handleChanged properly in that case.

Check List

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

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• Changes MySQL compatibility

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