ddl: fix a bug that upgrade the node when there is a paused job. (#44231)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #44231

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #44225

Problem Summary:
Before the upgrade, it has a paused DDL job, it's upgrade will fail

What is changed and how it works?

• Update judgment condition
• Move the callback from ddl/internal to ddl/util(Use it in test).

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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• 2023-07-12 05:32:12.383966714 +0000 UTC m=+482824.154305421: ☑️ agreed by tangenta.
• 2023-07-12 06:57:05.437244023 +0000 UTC m=+487917.207582722: ☑️ agreed by hawkingrei.

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