ttl: retry delete when write conflict happens in txn

[lcwangchao]

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #40502

What is changed and how it works?

In previous implement, the delete operation in TTL will retry when error occurs. But it will not retry when commit failed. In some cases, there will be a write conflict when committing the delete transaction while another user session are updating the record, and we need retry the deletion at this time.

The PR also retries the delete sql when commit failed.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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[lcwangchao]

/retest

[mjonss]

LGTM with one minor suggestion.

[lcwangchao]

/retest

[xiongjiwei]

/test mysql-test

[YangKeao]

LGTM

[lcwangchao]

/merge

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