[build 4 windows] ninja build support 4 windows & enable more switch like use system shared library

[congzhangzh]

What is the problem this feature will solve?

1. build is hard and slow on Windows system, which does not support ccache when I develop node runtime.
2. hard to build and publish to vcpkg & conda?

Guide I follow: https://github.com/nodejs/node/blob/main/BUILDING.mdthe

What is the feature you are proposing to solve the problem?

improve build process 4 windows, which use ninja build, this will

1. make the build workflow the same across Windows & Linux & more.
2. easy the build workflow with ccache to improve coding & debug loop of node runtime
3. easy to publish to vcpkg

ref:

1. https://github.com/medlab/daily-scripts-4-us/tree/main?tab=readme-ov-file#speed-you-windows-c-build-by-ccache-like-toolsimprove
2. [New Port Request] nodejs microsoft/vcpkg#23027
3. Node.js Feature Request: Embedded Host API & NativeWrapperGen Solution with Decorator and Tool Support & Infrastructure Change #51824
4. https://github.com/ccache/ccache/wiki/MS-Visual-Studio (I add some tips here)

What alternatives have you considered?

Do some trick work to make ccache work with Visual Studio? but it's very hard, as the node has so many dependencies?

[congzhangzh]

Other has already some work in progress, cool:

#51689
#51676
https://github.com/nodejs/node/blob/main/doc/contributing/gn-build.md