enhance: [2.4] Reduce memory usage of BF in DataNode and QueryNode

[bigsheeper]

1. DataNode: Skip generating BF during the insert phase (BF will be regenerated during the sync phase).
2. QueryNode: Skip generating or maintaining BF for growing segments; deletion checks will be handled in the segcore.

issue: #37630

pr: #38129

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[bigsheeper]

rerun ut

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Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 69.69697% with 10 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 83.58%. Comparing base (bd08b3b) to head (882e623).
Report is 7 commits behind head on 2.4.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
internal/datanode/writebuffer/l0_write_buffer.go	16.66%	10 Missing ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

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+ Coverage   64.28%   83.58%   +19.30%     
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  Files         268      806      +538     
  Lines       26479   141649   +115170     
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+ Hits        17021   118393   +101372     
- Misses       9458    18807     +9349     
- Partials        0     4449     +4449     

Files with missing lines	Coverage Δ
internal/querynodev2/segments/segment.go	67.93% <100.00%> (ø)
pkg/util/paramtable/component_param.go	98.36% <100.00%> (ø)
internal/datanode/writebuffer/l0_write_buffer.go	43.78% <16.66%> (ø)

... and 1071 files with indirect coverage changes