Replace call to deprecated torch.norm (#16758)

### Description
torch.norm is deprecated as mentioned in issue #16751. This PR replaces
the call to torch.norm by the options suggested by torch documentation.

orttraining/orttraining/python/training/optim/_modifier.py

@@ -137,7 +137,13 @@ def param_is_not_tensor_parallel_duplicate(param):
 
         else:
             for grad in grads_for_norm:
-                grad_norm = torch.norm(grad, norm_type)
+                # torch.norm is deprecated and moved to torch.linalg.norm
+                # with a different signature
+                # see https://pytorch.org/docs/stable/generated/torch.norm.html
+                if norm_type in {"fro", "nuc"}:
+                    grad_norm = torch.linalg.matrix_norm(grad, norm_type)
+                else:
+                    grad_norm = torch.linalg.norm(grad, norm_type)
                 total_norm += grad_norm**norm_type
 
         if horizontal_model_parallel_grad_norm_aggregation: