apacheGH-39265: [Java] Make it run well with the netty newest version…

… 4.1.104 (apache#39266)

When I used `netty arrow memory 14.0.1` and `netty 4.1.104.Final` in Spark, the following error occurred,
After pr: netty/netty#13613, `PoolArena` no longer extends `SizeClasses`, but instead uses it as one of its fields, as follows:
<img width="1051" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/6112757b-b2b7-42aa-b4c1-6ab473b91a09">
in order to ensure that `netty arrow memory 14.0.1` works well with `netty 4.1.104.Final` version, I suggest making similar modifications here.
1.Compilation errors are as follows:
https://github.com/panbingkun/spark/actions/runs/7237466030/job/19717162391
<img width="1005" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/98edb6a1-f0e6-4d4e-b568-fbdbffe612f0">

2.Some bugs have been fixed in `netty 4.1.104.Final` as follows:
<img width="862" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/12354a1e-cddd-4ab8-b168-e92712d84cea">
<img width="861" alt="image" src="https://github.com/apache/arrow/assets/15246973/bd7d27e1-3953-451c-8c9b-24ecb0d61efd">

4.1.104.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/15/4-1-104-Final.html
4.1.103.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/13/4-1-103-Final.html
4.1.101.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/11/09/4-1-101-Final.html

Java
* Closes: apache#39265

Authored-by: panbingkun <[email protected]>
Signed-off-by: David Li <[email protected]>