[Calico] Fix delay setting up ip routes in new nodes

[felipejfc]

Activate node controller in calico-kube-controllers and add CALICO_K8S_NODE_REF in calico-node, this commit fixes #3224 and #4533

Because this PR fixes critical issues, maybe some people would like to add this changes to running clusters, so I think we should create a new release "1.8.2" with it.

I'll open a separated PR for master.

@justinsb @chrislovecnm @caseydavenport @igorvpcleao

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[caseydavenport]

Calico manifest changes LGTM

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[chrislovecnm]

@felipejfc Thanks for the cherry pick! How does it sound if we merge you other PR into master and then figure out if we can cherry pick this in 1.9? I am still trying to figure out how @justinsb wants to handle cherry picking into the 1.9 release branch. We do want this in kops 1.9.

So if that is ok can we close this PR?

[mikesplain]

Agreed, we definitely want this in 1.9 so we should focus on getting #4589 to merged!

[felipejfc]

agreed and closing!

[thomasjungblut]

any plans for a 1.8.2 release that includes that?