backport: merge bitcoin#22879, #22762, #23041, #22734, #22950, #23053, #22839, #23140, #23306, #23354, #23380 (addrman backports: part 2)

backport: merge bitcoin#22879, #22762, #23041, #22734, #22950, #23053, #22839, #23140, #23306, #23354, #23380 (addrman backports: part 2) #6770