refactor(container)!: remove dependency on C graphviz

[aaronc]

Description

Closes: #11925

This replace the dependency on https://pkg.go.dev/github.com/goccy/go-graphviz which wraps the whole C Graphviz library and is causing ARM build problems in #11924 and generally probably shouldn't be used because it's a heavyweight dependency just used for debugging.

It adds:

• a custom graphviz package that does just what we need for container
• updates to graphviz rendering to make it nicer and a README with some examples
• golden tests for graphviz and log debugging
• a StderrLogger DebugOption which is now the default for Debug/AutoDebug

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[alexanderbez]

We should ideally fill these out, albeit it can be concise for now.

[aaronc]

I added an issue for this: #11944