release-22.2.0: kv: reacquire proscribed leases on drain, then transfer

[blathers-crl]

Backport 1/1 commits from #90106 on behalf of @nvanbenschoten.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Fixes #83372.
Fixes #90022.
Fixes #89963.
Fixes #89962.

This commit instructs stores to reacquire proscribed leases when draining in order to subsequently transfer them away. This addresses a source of flakiness in transfer-lease roachtests where some lease would not be transferred away before the drain completed. This could result in range unavailable for up to 9 seconds while other replicas waited out the lease'S expiration. This is because only the previous leaseholder knows that a proscribed lease is invalid. All other replicas still consider the lease to be valid.

This failure mode was always present if a lease transfer failed during a drain. However, it became more likely with 034611b. With that change, we began rejecting lease transfers that were deemed to be "unsafe" more frequently. 034611b introduced a best-effort, graceful version of this check and an airtight, ungraceful version of the check. The former performs the check before revoking the outgoing leaseholder's lease while the latter performs the check after revoking the outgoing leaseholder's lease. In rare cases, it was possible to hit the airtight, ungraceful check and cause the lease to be proscribed. See #83261 (comment) for more details on how this led to test flakiness in the transfer-lease roachtest suite.

Release notes: None.

Release justification: Avoids GA-blocking roachtest failures.

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Release justification:

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