release-22.1: sql: Use one BytesMonitor for all IE created by IEFactory

[RichardJCai]

Backport
1/1 commits from #83678.
1/1 commits from #84212.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Previously InternalExecutor's created via IEFactory would
create a monitor that would never be closed.

Now we have one monitor for all IEs that is closed with server
is closed.

Release note: None

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues or test-only changes.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.
• Patches must not add, edit, or otherwise modify cluster versions; or add version gates.

If some of the basic criteria cannot be satisfied, ensure that the exceptional criteria are satisfied within.

• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
• The PM and TL on the team that owns the changed code have signed off that the change obeys the above rules.

Add a brief release justification to the body of your PR to justify this backport.

Some other things to consider:

• What did we do to ensure that a user that doesn’t know & care about this backport, has no idea that it happened?
• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[yuzefovich]

This seems like a clean backport, right?

but let's give it a few more days of baking on master.

Reviewed 15 of 15 files at r1, 2 of 2 files at r2, all commit messages.
Reviewable status: complete! 1 of 0 LGTMs obtained (waiting on @RichardJCai)

[RichardJCai]

This seems like a clean backport, right?

but let's give it a few more days of baking on master.

Reviewed 15 of 15 files at r1, 2 of 2 files at r2, all commit messages.
Reviewable status: complete! 1 of 0 LGTMs obtained (waiting on @RichardJCai)

Yeah SGTM

[RichardJCai]

Seems like no issues on master, merging.