release-24.2: opt: disable GenerateParameterizedJoin when forcing custom plans

[blathers-crl]

Backport 1/3 commits from #129050 on behalf of @mgartner.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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opt: disable GenerateParameterizedJoin when forcing custom plans

The exploration rule GenerateParameterizedJoin is now disabled when
the plan_cache_mode session setting is set to force_custom_plan.
This prevents possible regressions in plans for this mode in the rare
case that a stable function is not folded during normalization (due to
an error encountered during folding). In most cases, the check for
placeholders and stable functions in GenerateParameterizedJoin is
sufficient for preventing the rule from firing when a generic query plan
is not being built—before optimizing a custom plan placeholders are
always replaced with constants and stable functions are usually folded
to constants.

Epic: None

Release note: None

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Release justification: Reduce risk of new feature.

[blathers-crl]

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[cockroach-teamcity]

This change is 

[rytaft]

Reviewed 1 of 1 files at r1, 10 of 10 files at r2, 1 of 1 files at r3, all commit messages.
Reviewable status: complete! 1 of 0 LGTMs obtained (waiting on @DrewKimball, @mgartner, @michae2, and @mw5h)

[mw5h]

Reviewable status: complete! 2 of 0 LGTMs obtained (waiting on @DrewKimball, @mgartner, and @michae2)

[mgartner]

TFTR!