release-23.1: persistedsqlstats: add AOST clause to statement statistics size check

[THardy98]

Backport 1/1 commits from #107549.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Epic: None

This change as an AOST clause to the statement statistics size check.
This helps mitigate contention on the system.statement_statistics
table which has caused the sql stats compaction job to fail.

Release note (bug fix): this change reduces contention on the
system.statement_statistics table which has caused the SQL statistics
compaction job to fail

Release justification: bug fix

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues or test-only changes.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.
• Patches must not add, edit, or otherwise modify cluster versions; or add version gates.

If some of the basic criteria cannot be satisfied, ensure that the exceptional criteria are satisfied within.

• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
• The PM and TL on the team that owns the changed code have signed off that the change obeys the above rules.

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• What did we do to ensure that a user that doesn’t know & care about this backport, has no idea that it happened?
• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[maryliag]

once tests are passing

Reviewable status: complete! 1 of 0 LGTMs obtained

[j82w]

Reviewable status: complete! 2 of 0 LGTMs obtained