release-23.1: upgrade: checkpoint fence version for multi-tenant clusters

[jeffswenson]

Backport 1/1 commits from #104821.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Previously, the tenant upgrade interlock checkpointed the version attached to the upgrade, when it should have checkpointed the fence version. This made it possible for an upgrade to skip versions. The conditions needed for this are rare, but could be triggered by crashes in the upgrade system or by the autoscaler downscaling a serverless cluster with multiple nodes.

Release Note: None

Fixes: #104884

Release Justification: Fixes a serverless 23.1 release blocker.

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues or test-only changes.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.
• Patches must not add, edit, or otherwise modify cluster versions; or add version gates.

If some of the basic criteria cannot be satisfied, ensure that the exceptional criteria are satisfied within.

• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
• The PM and TL on the team that owns the changed code have signed off that the change obeys the above rules.

Add a brief release justification to the body of your PR to justify this backport.

Some other things to consider:

• What did we do to ensure that a user that doesn’t know & care about this backport, has no idea that it happened?
• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[jeffswenson]

The only difference between this change and source PR is DisableDefaultTestTenant: true, test parameter is a bool flag instead of an enum.