release-23.1: kv: consider ErrReplicaNotFound and ErrReplicaCannotHoldLease to be retryable

[blathers-crl]

Backport 1/1 commits from #98116 on behalf of @nvanbenschoten.

Fixes #100984.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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Fixes #96746.
Fixes #100379.

This commit considers ErrReplicaNotFound and ErrReplicaCannotHoldLease to be retryable replication change errors when thrown by lease transfer requests. In doing so, these errors will be retried by the retry loop in Replica.executeAdminCommandWithDescriptor.

This avoids spurious errors when a split gets blocked behind a lateral replica move like we see in the following situation:

1. issue AdminSplit
2. range in joint config, first needs to leave (maybeLeaveAtomicChangeReplicas)
3. to leave, needs to transfer lease from voter_outgoing to voter_incoming 4(a). lease transfer request sent to replica that has not yet applied the
   replication change that added the voter_incoming to the range
   4(b). lease transfer request delayed and delivered after voter_incoming has
   been transferred the lease, added to the range, then removed from the
   range.

In either case, retrying the AdminSplit operation on these errors will ensure that it eventually succeeds.

Release note (bug fix): Fixed a rare race that could allow large RESTOREs to fail with a unable to find store error.

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Release justification: avoids errors during splits, which can be seen during IMPORT and RESTORE.

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