add more appropriate settings for Ask vs. Tell benchmarking in BDN

[Aaronontheweb]

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add more appropriate settings for Ask vs. Tell benchmarking in BDN - the values we've been getting back have been weird

[Aaronontheweb]

BenchmarkDotNet v0.13.12, Pop!_OS 22.04 LTS
13th Gen Intel Core i7-1360P, 1 CPU, 16 logical and 12 physical cores
.NET SDK 8.0.105
  [Host]  : .NET 8.0.5 (8.0.524.21615), X64 RyuJIT AVX2
  LongRun : .NET 8.0.5 (8.0.524.21615), X64 RyuJIT AVX2

Job=LongRun  Concurrent=True  Server=True  
InvocationCount=1  IterationCount=50  LaunchCount=3  
RunStrategy=Monitoring  UnrollFactor=1  WarmupCount=25  

Method	ActorCount	Mean	Error	StdDev	Median	Ratio	RatioSD	Req/sec
PushMsgs	1	94.94 ns	3.025 ns	11.04 ns	93.53 ns	1.00	0.00	10,532,979.55
AskMsgs	1	346.64 ns	16.281 ns	59.40 ns	338.68 ns	3.69	0.72	2,884,829.46
PushMsgs	10	289.37 ns	26.886 ns	98.09 ns	301.02 ns	1.00	0.00	3,455,767.90
AskMsgs	10	2,692.99 ns	77.923 ns	284.29 ns	2,760.64 ns	10.12	2.92	371,334.08
PushMsgs	100	10,215.05 ns	318.374 ns	1,161.53 ns	10,478.60 ns	1.00	0.00	97,894.74
AskMsgs	100	16,367.79 ns	1,575.982 ns	5,749.67 ns	15,945.30 ns	1.65	0.75	61,095.59

[Aaronontheweb]

The numbers still look funny for the higher actor counts but I might be able to chalk that up to the overhead of the routing + more context switching