[wheel] macOS arm64 staging builds use Ventura now

[svenevs]

Relates: #20339

This is an implication of switching the wheel build as far as I know. We have not had nightly CI finish yet which will be the first CI job capable of producing an artifact similar to the staging urls being considered.

CC @BetsyMcPhail @jwnimmer-tri

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This change is 

[svenevs]

+@mwoehlke-kitware for review please. Continuing the thread from #20339 (comment), we can test this change once we have ventura runners available in CI (tomorrow...).

Reviewable status: 1 unresolved discussion, LGTM missing from assignee mwoehlke-kitware, needs platform reviewer assigned, needs at least two assigned reviewers

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tools/release_engineering/download_release_candidate.py line 140 at r1 (raw file):

            f"drake-{version[1:]}-cp312-cp312-manylinux_2_31_x86_64.whl",
            f"drake-{version[1:]}-cp311-cp311-macosx_12_0_x86_64.whl",
            f"drake-{version[1:]}-cp311-cp311-macosx_13_0_arm64.whl",

working, we do not have enough CI runners to test this change today.

[mwoehlke-kitware]

Reviewable status: 1 unresolved discussion, needs platform reviewer assigned, needs at least two assigned reviewers, labeled "do not merge" (waiting on @svenevs)

[BetsyMcPhail]

Reviewed 1 of 1 files at r1, all commit messages.
Reviewable status: 1 unresolved discussion, needs platform reviewer assigned, needs at least two assigned reviewers, labeled "do not merge" (waiting on @svenevs)

[jwnimmer-tri]

[svenevs]

Reviewed 1 of 1 files at r1.
Reviewable status: labeled "do not merge"

[svenevs]

[3:31:24 PM]  -- Artifacts uploaded to AWS:
[3:31:24 PM]  https://drake-packages.csail.mit.edu/drake/nightly/drake-0.0.20231110-cp311-cp311-macosx_13_0_arm64.whl
[3:31:24 PM]  https://drake-packages.csail.mit.edu/drake/nightly/drake-latest-cp311-cp311-macosx_13_0_arm64.whl
[3:31:24 PM]