fix: state listener could observe discarded writes (backport #13459)

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #13459 done by Mergify.
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	modified:   store/cachemulti/store.go
	modified:   store/rootmulti/store_test.go

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	both modified:   CHANGELOG.md

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