NBB and Shadow-cljs can't work off the same :require code for third party NPM libraries

[dmg46664]

version

"nbb": "^0.7.134",

platform

MacOSX
Node.js v18.8.0

problem

NBB and Shadow-cljs can't :require WebSocketServer from the ws NPM package using the same code path.

As described in the #nbb slack channel:
https://clojurians.slack.com/archives/C029PTWD3HR/p1663073274434959

repro

Example written up here with demonstration of the problem in the README:
https://github.com/dmg46664/problems/tree/main/03_nbb_and_shadow_import

expected behavior

Expected behaviour is to not have to change the cljs code in order to get the example running on both platforms.