Only pass --build-option to bdist_wheel in build_meta

In pypa#2491 (comment)
the discussion seems to lead to the idea that it is better for now
to avoid passing any `--build-option` for commands that are not
`bdist_wheel` in `setuptools.build_meta`.

setuptools/build_meta.py

@@ -318,7 +318,6 @@ def _get_build_requires(self, config_settings, requirements):
             *sys.argv[:1],
             *self._global_args(config_settings),
             "egg_info",
-            *self._arbitrary_args(config_settings),
         ]
         try:
             with Distribution.patch():
@@ -406,14 +405,14 @@ def _build_with_temp_dir(
         # Build in a temporary directory, then copy to the target.
         os.makedirs(result_directory, exist_ok=True)
         temp_opts = {"prefix": ".tmp-", "dir": result_directory}
+
         with tempfile.TemporaryDirectory(**temp_opts) as tmp_dist_dir:
             sys.argv = [
                 *sys.argv[:1],
                 *self._global_args(config_settings),
                 *setup_command,
                 "--dist-dir",
                 tmp_dist_dir,
-                *self._arbitrary_args(config_settings),
             ]
             with no_install_setup_requires():
                 self.run_setup()
@@ -432,7 +431,10 @@ def build_wheel(
     ):
         with suppress_known_deprecation():
             return self._build_with_temp_dir(
-                ['bdist_wheel'], '.whl', wheel_directory, config_settings
+                ['bdist_wheel', *self._arbitrary_args(config_settings)],
+                '.whl',
+                wheel_directory,
+                config_settings,
             )
 
     def build_sdist(self, sdist_directory, config_settings=None):